Cyber abuse.

So this is really a quick post because I would like to sleep soon, but really, it’s just been on my mind for the couple days and while the issue has not been resolved, I might as well post about it.

Basically on the weekend, something online happened on the realm of ask.fm, which if anyone doesn’t know, is a social networking website where people can send anonymous (or not, your choice) questions to an user with an account. Generally, this site is not used for cyber bulling and the like. They might be tame questions, such as ‘what did you do today?’ or ‘top 5 things you want right now’. However, it’s easy to see that this site could take quite a nasty turn with its anonymous features, which is exactly what it did during the past weekend.

Basically, we have a partnered boys school – let’s call them ‘Boy School’, or BS for short (it was unintended, I promise!) Basically, the premise was that Boy A who attends BS in my grade got sent anonymous questions which were basically hate about my group of friends and I, without any provocation from my friends or myself, probably to stir up some reaction within Boy A. Of course, this is exactly what happened. Basically, the questions asked were along the lines of ‘let’s create a list of the girls that we hate the most from (Girl School).’ and then this list was then created, which had very graphic and vulgar language directed at my friends and I. Being the type of person I am, I don’t like to take these things sitting down so I also sent Boy A a question on his ask.fm, choosing not to be anonymous (otherwise, of course, one of two things could happen: one would be called a ‘keyboard warrior’, or to ‘pop up on fb’/’inbox’.). My relationship with Boy A was that he was very annoying a few years ago, where he would constantly harass and annoy me on Facebook. I decided nope, I wasn’t going to deal with this, and then promptly blocked him from my friends list. Last year, while going through my Facebook settings I came across the people I had blocked, and then unblocked him, because hey, it’s been 3 years, I really don’t have a grudge against you, so why not.

Seems like this opinion was one sided. He apparently hates me for it.

After having to take my friends and I being called names such as (and this is direct quoting!)  ‘stuck up cunt’s, ‘sluts’, ‘the ugly fuck’, and also a reason given as to why this anonymous hated one of my friends – (and this girl is so sweet, and really I do not see why anyone from BS would hate on her) ‘idk why I just hate her’, I was not taking it anymore. I messaged Boy A off anonymous, asking what I ever did to him. He replied saying ‘you blocked me for three years lol’. I said, ‘thats because you were harassing me 2/3 years ago, of course I would do something that.’ He said it was just a joke, to not take things so seriously, and I replied with ‘so you think harassing me even when I told you to stop was a joke? And also calling my friends names is a joke?’ he replies with ‘I apologised to them? Whatevs soz youre obv mad for what I did.’ There was no apology, or anything of the sort.

This goes on for a while.

After he looks like a douche for an hour or so, continually calling people bad names and pretending like its nothing serious, and pretty much acting like the king of the world, he get’s (excuse the bad language) shit on, and he posts an ‘apology’. Online. Not directed at anyone.

About ten minutes after that, Boy A deactivates his account.

The next day on Sunday, he reactivates, deletes his apology statement, and then proceeds to answer questions with responses such as ‘haha i’m back, couldnt live without ask fm’. He also pretends that it was someone else on his account, even though he messaged someone the night before from another boy school asking if it was him, on Boy A’s own Facebook account. Sure it wasn’t you. Sure.

So this goes on for a while, so me and a friend (let’s say Girl A) decide to take it to our school and our deputy principal. Of course, now we are getting slandered by students from BS, who are friends with Boy A, telling us to calm down, we were being too harsh on him, he only meant it as a joke, etc. Really didn’t seem like a joke to me.

So you know, I get sent some hate as well on my own ask.fm (due to me not being anonymous) which I’m completely fine with, except that the context of the questions is what really gets my blood boiling. Being told that it was a joke. Sure, of course it was a joke! I’m totally going to take you calling my friends ‘fuckheads’ and ‘sluts’ as a joke.

So today, we took it to our deputy, so I’m guessing Boy A and his friends will be in for some fun tomorrow.

Of course the story doesn’t end there! This is really the part that I wanted to rant about, although of course you’d have to understand what happened before hand, so hence the 800 word description of what happened above.

There is a girl, let’s say her name is Girl C. She is in my friend ‘group’, and once the hate started happening and got pretty bad during the weekend, I was messaging her on Facebook. I told her we were considering taking it to the deputy (the only person I told and it just had to be her, huh.) and she says that you know, she supports our decision and she would go with us as well, but she ‘doesn’t want to make it a party’ (at the deputy principals office). So you know, I’m like yeah thats ok, completely fine.

But then the real problem starts from here: behind our backs today at school, she told all our other friends that we were ‘taking it too far’ by bringing it as a problem to the school. Now some of my other friends also share that opinion. I am fine with that, and I can even see where they’re coming from. Boy A could potentially get suspended. That’s fine. But to lie, and to just say that so she has something to talk about, is what makes me angry. I told girl C what was roughly going at the time because hey, I had no idea she would turn out to use it to have something to gossip about. I was dead wrong. Over the weekend, she goes and tells boy A’s friends that we might be taking it to the principal (me and Girl A, who I went to the deputy’s office with, had wanted to keep it as hush and not spread the word), and then today at school she also decides to pull a 180 and pretend that she didn’t want the matter to blow up. Which is the problem. Because after school, we were catching the train home and she decides to tell all of the people from my school and also students from BS who catch the train from that station, and of course they’re all hanging onto her every word, because this was some new interesting drama that they hadn’t know about.

Can I reiterate – girl A and I wanted to keep this quiet as possible.

Due to her telling almost everyone under the sun, even people who weren’t involved, she managed to blow up the situation, make her seem like the good girl (once again, by saying things like ‘I tried to stop them from going, I don’t think they needed to go that far), stomped on Girl A’s and also my own reputation (of course, now we seem like the bad ones and the ‘bitches’ for taking it to the school) and also make Girl A cry (who was sitting close by on the train, but not with Girl C while she was telling her heroic story. She had to listen to Girl C say bad things about her etc. I’m sure you can imagine.). But of course that’s ok! Because now everyone knows her as the little mine of information while being on the ‘good’ side, and she’s gotten the attention that she wants.

I have class with her tomorrow and I don’t know how to face her. Honestly, more than the anon and everything else, she has made me the most angry and infuriated. I’m almost hoping I have enough self restraint to not snap and start screaming at her and maybe even doing something physical.

Sorry for the lengthy, dark, and probably full of errors post. I left out a lot of things, but if I did include everything, it probably would’ve been well over 2k words or something. But thank you for reading if you’ve made it this far! Really appreciate it.

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Catchup!

Woops! So this was supposed to be posted on Monday but it never did…. oh well, better late than never.

So plenty of things to write about, since school started up again and it’s been a couple of days.

– I know I said I started Divergent, and I did, but it’s probably going to go on break until perhaps this weekend or something. I’m about halfway finished the book, and probably could’ve finished it on Saturday, but I feel like it’s almost a waste to read a book so quickly just for the sake of finishing it. So I took a break, and then school, and then oh my goodness all kinds of things. So I’m taking a small break! Although so far, I do find that nothing is really happening yet – what I saw in the movie trailer still hasn’t happened in the book yet, and I’m already almost half way through! But I guess I’ll just see what happens.

On Saturday, I went back to work at a tutoring centre, where I sat at the back of a year 6 classroom and marked their homework. And honestly, I’m so frustrated, because I don’t understand how some people can either a) hate their job so much, or b) get hired with their people/children skills. Basically, the teacher for the 6th grade class was really, really rude, in all senses of the word, and I would just hate to have him as my own teacher, putting that lightly! If a student talked, he would instantly tell them to shut up. Which I might understand if they were being rowdy and talking about irrelevant topics, but during the class two students were simply helping each other do their work – he told them to “shut up and do their own work”, and if they continued talking, he would move and separate the two. Seriously, who says that? Not to mention one timid, female student asked the teacher for help, and he basically said (paraphrased) “I don’t know, how do you do it? Why don’t you think about it yourself.” Why would you say that to your own student? As a teacher, are you not supposed to help your students? Honestly, some people…

 

Anyway, Saturday night was pretty damn eventful – I found out my results for the JLPT, which I took last year on December 1st (wow, it’s already been two months…). If anyone doesn’t know, JLPT is basically an internationally recognised Japanese test, and there are five levels ranging from N5 (the easiest) to N1 (crazy, crazy hard!). Passing the test is often required if you want to get a high ranking job such as a doctor in Japan and you’re from another country. Of course, you can also take the test to assess where you’re at with your learning, which is what I did. I took the N4 level, and I honestly thought that I might not pass when I took the test, but can you imagine my shock when I checked on Saturday night and passed? I literally fell off my chair and was just laughing out loud to myself (true LOL-ing and ROFL) in awe, happiness, and a whole bunch of other things – haven’t felt that way in a long, long time. I’m contemplating doing N3, but the skill level gap between N4 and N3 is pretty big, and I don’t know if I’ll be able to pass and study efficiently for it, especially with school… but maybe! Because I definitely won’t be able to do it next year with my HSC and all, so I’m currently thinking about it.

But anyway, my results for N4:

74/120 for Language knowledge

55/60 for listening

129/180 total score

Vocabulary – A

Grammar – A

Reading – B

Honestly, I’m quite surprised because I would’ve thought that I get an A for reading while I got a B for grammar, and possibly vocab. But hey, I’m not complaining!

 

Anyway, that happiness was kind of short lived, as after that I was transferring photos from my camera to my computer and when I took out the connecting cable, my camera kind of… broke? Whenever I try turn on the camera, the lens will open and then retract, but then the screen will show ‘Lens Error. Camera will now restart.’ and something else along the lines of ‘Automatic shutdown’ (my memory’s a bit hazy, forgive me) which is really, really annoying because this is the second time this has happened – the first time, we got it professionally repaired and paid for it as well. Since we got it fixed, we’ve used it once not even for two hours while my parents went up to the Blue Mountains on a short day trip, and now it’s already broken again. If anyone knows any fixes for this, please please let me know! I have a canon powershot g15.  I don’t want to have to pay to get it fixed again, especially when we just did…

Anyway, Sunday rolled around, and we went out to the Twilight Parade in the city! If you don’t know what it is, Google is your best friend. Nah, I joke – Twilight Parade is basically this Lunar New Year Parade that takes place every year for a couple of hours at night. (For more information, go here: http://www.sydneychinesenewyear.com/festival-program/chinese-new-year-twilight-parade/)  Honestly, I wasn’t too keen for it, but it was alright I guess, got to go out for a bit and walk around the city (my hood man, my hood!) although we didn’t get a good view of the parade because we cam pretty late. But well, I went pretty early last year, and honestly from the little snippets I could see yesterday, the parade looked pretty similar. So, I guess I didn’t miss out on too much there…
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Selfie from Sunday.

So back to school today – I had Japanese, a free, Italian, and then double maths – funny because I have the same subjects tomorrow, but only one period of maths instead of two! I tried to do work during my free, but well… that didn’t really work out. But I guess it doesn’t really matter, considering it’s only the beginning of year 11 anyway – it’s not like I have anything to study for really, just kind of trying to act all senior-like! I guess.

 

Yay, that’s all for the last couple of days! Thanks heaps for reading! ^_^

 

So I’m writing this on the train to tutoring (today we start learning probability, how fun) because it’s a forty minute trip and I really don’t want to sit on this train which currently doesn’t have any seats available, or air con to get my mind off the incredible heat. I am literally roasting alive standing up and sweating my butt off.
So anyway, today was the first day back at school! And honestly my biggest peeve of today was the fact that I didn’t use any of my books at all, even though I had to suffer lugging them around. Because of tutor today, I also have three hours between the time school finishes and when tutor starts, so I decided to go return my overdue library books at a library near school, so basically I had way too many things to carry today and I barely used any of them.  Shall we list them out for fun?
– two folders for all my books (because one wasn’t enough to fit them all! Preposterous!)
– 4 exercise books for school subject (only wrote in one today for Italian)
– 2 exercise books for tutor
– a textbook and an accompanying cd box to return to the library
– a textbook gotten from school today
Man I am so glad I didn’t have maths today, because then that would mean an extra two (thick) textbooks to carry around. Instead, I only had to carry all of the above! Yay! Also glad I didn’t bring my laptop, because then that’s an extra 1.5 kilos or so. 
But moving onto the content (if you can even call it that) we ‘covered’ at school today, for every single lesson we basically just sat down and talked about the syllabus outcomes for each subject and what we would be doing throughout this year and the next. Which, while useful, gets boring very quickly if you have to sit through four hours of it.
Thankfully once school got let out, I could go to the city and just kind of bum around and relax. But right before that, I had a good old laugh to myself about being a senior at the bus stop…
Which might sound weird, but hear me out. At our school, seniors are treated with such high respect it’s not even funny. We get so many senior privileges and can get away with so many things. I’m probably going to make a more elaborate post on this next week, when we officially get our senior privileges, but for now, to try and make it easier for anyone to imagine, our school has a stop for school buses and then a public bus stop for well… the public. Students are generally not allowed to go to the public bus stop, as we have ‘excellent’ school buses for students. The only reason why you’re supposed to catch public buses is if you’re going city, or basically if you have a good enough reason (urgent doctors appointment, work, etc). So prefects often check the public bus stops for any students who might be catching it without a ‘valid’ reason and send them back to the school bus lines.  And well, it might seem like a trivial thing, but I probably felt way too happy when I was completely skipped over when waiting at public and all the wee lil juniors were being checked.  Although then again, I knew the prefect… but I guess I looked responsible enough on my own to not be doing such a thing? Hehe. Although it probably sounds crazy, not to mention lame, to anyone (everyone) else, it’s a big deal for me okay!
Oh yeah, after school today I went into David Jones to finally buy a brow pencil I’ve been meaning to buy since last year, but didn’t ever get around to it considering the only David Jones that’s somewhat close to me has a Shu Uemera stand. I tried looking at some other suburbs, but unless I’m blind I don’t think I saw any.  But yeah! I’m super excited to start using it – it’s the Shu Uemera Hard Formula brow pencil, and it’s pretty damn cool. It has a slanted end, which means that you have to get a special sharpener (or a scalpel, I know my sister gets her boyfriend to sharpen hers) or you can go back to David Jones for a free sharpening! Pretty handy. And although that does sound kind of inconvenient, it’s not really because you only have to sharpen it once every few months because of the way it’s shaped.  And it lasts ages – my sisters had hers for about a year and she’s only sharpened it around three times, and there’s still heaps of product left.  So I’m so excited to try it! It is kind of pricey though for a brow pencil, considering there are cheaper options such as the Nyx brow and eye pencil (I bought this online for around $7) and the Maybelline master shape series, which I think are around $18 RRP (I got mine half price though, during Christmas sale season 2012-2013). However I like to tell myself its a good investment at $34 RRP. Hopefully it is (review, anybody?).
Okay! So this post took me a good half an hour on the train, and I’m getting off in two or three minutes.  What good timing by me! So I think I’m going to leave it here. Thanks heaps for reading!